I “learned” many years ago that everything in this world is a learned
behavior. -AND as children, we are oblivious as to what generational habits we
learn. Our parents, their friends, and the people that surround us, bring forth
many habits. -Some good and bad. What’s sad to me is that there are habits that
we learn that are so horrible, and unless we decide to break away from it, it
may continue to live on through our children’s, children. --BUT, let’s not
forget about the stories that we pass onto our children as well. There are some
parent’s stories that devastate and destroy families, close relationships and
some friendships. And for what? Revenge? The belief that they are protecting
their children? I’m sure they have their own agenda’s that they will justify,
but does that make it right??? And at what cost???
Someone I love, and care for very deeply has a former spouse who has
done just that. Destroyed the relationship between their children and their
father. Sure if she was reading this, she would say “he did this to himself”
but the truth of the matter is… there are 3 sides to every story. One side, the
other side, and the truth. The truth is… he loves his children very much. I
NEVER could imagine in any world that he would ever harm his children, or
anyone for that matter. He is such a gentle soul with a HUGE heart. She had her
own beliefs and used the children as leverage against him in bullying him into
saying things that were in fact; not true. It has been proven over and over
again. I have been witness to this on many occasions. I believe in facts, and
will never “just” believe what someone says without proof! Concrete proof!
It’s sad that these children will never truly know their father. How
kind he is. How trusting he was in his own family, and how that trust destroyed
the very relationship he cherished. Although he has come to accept the situation
“as is” I hope that one day his children see the devastation that their own
mother caused, and his children find their way back into his life.
Either way, he has accepted the fact that his children due to the
actions of an ill willed belief/story that his former spouse conjured up, will
never effect his happiness today or in the future.
I am happy to be part of this man’s life, and will cherish every moment
he is here to make me smile, laugh and love him deeper.
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Boy, has this topic stirred up a storm. Not intentional, as I just expressed my thoughts and emotions. -I'm so happy that others have taken an interest in my online blog.
I've deleted their false and negative comments. To me, it proves just how powerful a story can be, and how it ripples through other people who may get caught in the web that has been tangled.
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